5.16.2007

Other Moms: Other Children


" A mother holds her children's hands for a while, their hearts forever." Author Unknown


For the last few days I have written joyfully about mothers. I wrote a tribute to my mother and recalled time spent with mothers in my life. It felt good to read other blogs about motherhood and I also enjoyed the comments I received from other mothers, daughters, and sons.

When we started school in the fall I met a new student in my class that was twelve years old named AR. Her mother was dying of breast cancer. Her mother was young, very ill, and only had a short time left. We all moved gingerly through those first weeks of school, not wanting to discuss it much because other friends and relatives of the woman were also in class. When she died the class tried to figure out things to do that would help. Students wrote poems, made cards, and went to the services. AR has been a brave child all year. She always wears her pink ribbon. She just did the Breast Cancer walk in Spokane in memory of her mother. She smiles a bit more now. She sits by me and asked me to tell her stories about my mother and what is was like when she had breast cancer.
Now, again, it is happening. BI is a year older and his mother went in for surgery a week ago. There were complications. She is in a coma. Family and friends are waiting by her bedside to talk to her. BI is shuttled back and forth between the hospital and home. An auntie came in today, her eyes swollen and red as she removed her sunglasses for a moment. " He needs a book to do this assignment", she said. Last week they wanted school work to try to keep life moving the same. How can you ask him to do a reading story and a packet on how to do a speech? Again, many family members and friends are part of our school family. People are hopeful, but cautious. It is hard to know what to do to help.
My prayers today are with AR as she continues to heal and with BI and his family as they circle around his mother's bedside.

10 comments :

  1. So very sad. At the core, I believe that sometimes our culture expects children to be more resilient than is fair to ask. I'm glad your students have an understanding and compassionate teacher. You are very important to them, especially right now. My prayers are with these kiddos.

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  2. Thanks so much. I appreciate your prayers.

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  3. Oh, this is hard! I remember a year when we had two students who each lost a parent to cancer. Our math teacher lost his wife to cancer that same year. It's a huge hurt. but la tea dah is right. Teachers and classmates have opportunities to make a difference. It changes them, too, as they comfort others. My prayers are with you and your school family.

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  4. I have no words - just prayed for these little ones and for you.

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  5. thanks pinehurst... after mom left i got a horrible cold so i stayed home today. i haven't gotten an update.

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  6. Wow, that is sad. A friend of mine (high school teacher) had a student of hers die last year of cancer. It was sad and heart breaking. Her relationship with the family was so strong that they asked her to do the eulogy. She said it was one of the most difficult things she's ever done. It's so hard on a child...I think its more difficult on a child when its a parent than when its herself.
    Anyway, thank you so much for adding me to your blog roll! Nobody's ever done that for me before! Bohemian mom doesn't count, she got me blogging in the first place! lol

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  7. raymond pert(kellogg bloggin) is my brother and i know he has added you to his blog roll. thanks for the supportive words.

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  8. Oh my, you're all very brave. I'll light a candle for AR and BL and pray for you too.

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  9. thanks nz... I appreciate it.

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